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We all know that life can be a bit like a roller coaster at times - ups, downs, going round and round in circles, twists turns and a feeling of overwhelm, lacking a sense of direction or knowing what’s even going on; just hanging on for dear life basically.
One thing I’ve learnt recently is that you’ve hopped on the ride and you can’t get off, so put your damn hands up, let out a huge scream and enjoy the exhilarating ride!
Life can make you vomit, or it can send a rush of excitement through your bones every day. It’s up to you.
ps. Sorry for the image of vomit in your mind at the moment.
Have you ever wanted to say something to someone or do something in life, but you hesitated and didn't go through with it? Why do we do this? What are we afraid of? How would our lives improve if we let ourselves be more vulnerable?
Vulnerability - Daniel Buccheri
VULNERABILITY Have you ever wanted to say something to someone or do something in life, but you hesitated and didn't go through with it? Why do we do this? What are we afraid of? How would our lives improve if we let ourselves be more vulnerable?#vulnerability #selfhelp #motivation #motivational #personaldevelopment #speaker #confidence #struggle #tease #bully #relationship #relationshipsPosted by Daniel Buccheri on Monday, February 8, 2016
Today on the hiking trail from Vernazza to Monterosso I had the pleasure of meeting a group of inspirational young women who are doing great things in this world. To meet people so full of life, full of love and wanting this world to be a better place is something I treasure so much.
Thank you for inspiring me tonight, for your presence and for letting me crash your dinner.
I haven't been writing as much as I thought I would on this trip, but I wanted to take some time to sit and reflect on what has been an amazing first two weeks.
When I look back, I have learnt so much in such a short amount of time, just from embracing the 'change' that I spoke about in one of my previous posts and overcoming many fears along the way. My good friend Fontaine puts it best when she says "It is not the absence of fear that propels us forward, but rather, the presence of courage".
I want be as honest as possible with these posts, as I feel there is a much deeper connection both as a writer and for the reader, so I will start by saying that the beginning of my journey was not a very pleasant one.
After landing in Rome on my first night and going for a quick stroll down to the Colosseum (as you do), I was overcome by many different emotions, both good and bad. Over the next 24 hours, I began to quickly sink into a hole that I thought I would not get out of. Whether it was fear of the unknown, being alone in a foreign environment, no sleep on a twenty-three hour plane ride, or simply the fact that I had thrown myself head first into the deep end and had no idea what I was doing, I was ready to jump back on a plane and head home. - Yes, no exaggeration, I almost bought a ticket.
The reason I wanted to write this though was not because of that moment, but because of what has followed. These past two week cannot be put into words, or an image, or a movie, not in their entirety anyway. It feels as if I have experienced more in two weeks than I have in my twenty-five years on this earth. Not just the amazing places of course, but the people, the relationships, the wisdom, the knowledge, the emotions, the good times, the bad times, the times I stood staring in wonderment for hours, the food (OMG the food), the adventures, getting lost yet being in the exact right place... and so much more.
My aim for this trip is to have as many experiences as possible. The reason I say this is that I have learnt in recent times that it is not just the good experiences that we need in our lives, we also need the bad. Just as we learn from our mistakes, we learn from the bad times as well. We gain strength, we gain wisdom and most importantly, we gain courage.
Yes we are going to go through some tough situations in this life and it will always be easier to give up and quit, but I urge you to push through that barrier, to claw your way out of that hole until you see the light that was there all along. Looking back now, if I had of given up, if I had of quit, I would have missed out on the most incredible two weeks of my life, not to mention everything else that is to come.
Today I set off on an adventure. Today I leave with a backpack on my back, heading into the most unknown place of my life so far. Not just in the physical sense of unknown geographical location, but unknown experiences, unknown opportunities and unknown adventures.
There is so much of this life to explore, to experience, to grasp with both hands, but sometimes we just get stuck with all the trails and tribulations that get thrown at us along the way, going about our day as if ‘this is just the way it is’.
What if you could change that? Well…...you CAN change that! Our lives are depicted by our minds and only limited by our imagination. One of the most powerful things I’ve learnt recently is that my life is MY choice. No one else’s. The way I feel each day, the things I do (or don’t do), the people I’m around, the actions I take…it all comes down to the choices I’ve made along the way.
I’m not saying that everyone should just pack up and head across the globe, but maybe take this opportunity to have a look at yourself in the mirror today and ask….Is that really you? Is that really the person you want to be right now? Or are there things you’ve wanted to do that have been eating away at you in the back of your mind for months, years or maybe even decades?
Check your watch. The time is now.
So tonight was the closing of a huge chapter of my life. Something that eventuated into so much more than I could ever have imagined. The end of a job that never felt like a job. A job where I got to do what I love, surrounded by people that mean the world to me, payed well and was less hours a week than some people work in a day. A job where I got to coach young talented individuals and watch as they blossomed into confident, self loving awes of inspiration, who now believe that anything is possible.
So why do I want to leave? I was asking myself that question in the lead up to the decision. The answer... I was too comfortable.
Let me explain. When we are comfortable, we are not growing, we are doing what we already know, nothing is changing and life is on repeat. This will serve us for a certain period of time, but eventually the animal instinct in us will kick in and a little voice will whisper, "It's time to grow, it's time to evolve, it's time to change."
We are naturally programed as human beings to evolve, to grow and to discover. When we get in the way of this process, we suffer. I realised that all the advice I was giving to my students in order for them to grow, was advice that I would not be taking if I stayed.
As we go along in life, I've realised that we outgrow things. As we learn more about ourselves and experience new things, we find that we need to leave certain things behind in order to make room for new growth.
So I'm stepping out of my comfort zone and stepping onto a plane. Next week I leave on a one-way ticket to the other side of the world. I'm not sure exactly what's ahead of me right now, but I'm making room for growth, stepping into the unknown, trusting my instincts and conquering fears.
The unknown can be a scary thing, but it brings with it new opportunities, new people, new adventures and new experiences. Life is meant to be lived full, not on repeat.
So here's to change! One scary piece of work, but something that is inevitable in life.
Sometimes when we lose something dear to us, we appreciate what we already have. I have so much love in my heart right now for the people around me and it got me thinking... What if I felt like this forever?
Next time you have a deep appreciation for something, that feeling of gratitude for something that you have, hold onto it with both hands and never let it go. Your world will appear so much more beautiful.
Today I fulfilled a childhood dream and flew an aeroplane. Not only was it the most incredible experience of my life so far, it made me realise just how much we need to be doing the things that make our hearts jump out of our chests.
For over 20 years I have looked up at the sky and wished I could be behind the controls of the planes flying overhead, but today I realised there is nothing holding me back.
If there is something in your heart that keeps speaking to you, make sure you listen. If we are not doing the things that we love, the things that bring us joy and excitement, the things that we think of day and night, then what are we really doing here? One of the best pieces of advice I have ever been given is "DO IT NOW".
Now it's your turn. Go!
Most of us are living in the past. We do the same things we did yesterday, think the same thoughts we did yesterday, and feel the same emotions we did yesterday. We worry about the same things, stress about the same things and focus on the same things. We are living on repeat.
Someone may have done something to you many years ago, a relationship may have ended, you lost your job, you had a fight with someone, but that moment has made its way to the present day. It's like we have a sack that we drag behind us and store all the bad things that have happened to us, so that we can take them out each day and make sure we remember to dwell on each one of them.
What if you cut the cord? What if you learnt to forgive and forget and realise that today is a NEW day? Imagine the weight that would be lifted! Not by saying those things that happened were right, that those people were right in hurting you, but by saying that I'm choosing to not let them affect my happiness today.
The more we do this, the more we live for today, rather than yesterday. We start to create new and exciting adventures. New and exciting emotions. A new and exciting life.
Let go. Be free of your past and watch all of those voids in your heart begin to disappear, as you lose focus of your past and start to focus on what is most important....The actions, thoughts and feelings that you are choosing to feel TODAY.
Only when something extraordinary comes into your life do you realise what you were missing out on.
Aim a little higher, dream a little bigger, because that something extraordinary is out there waiting for you.
Be patient and never settle for anything less.
After finish another inspiring week of coaching, I just had the thought of how powerful it is to pass on knowledge. To watch someone grow once they are fed the right stuff.
There are so many people in this world that look to take strength away from people in order to make themselves feel stronger, but passing on knowledge is one of the strongest forces I’ve ever felt.
It's like planting a seed; With time and patience, that seed of knowledge will grow into something extraordinary, something that can then have a lasting impact on the next generation and like a domino effect, mold, shift and transform this world into bigger and brighter things.
Share your knowledge, encourage others to succeed and be open to the fact that YOU can make a difference in this world.
Lately I've been on top of the world, loving life, grateful for everything I have, ticking off some bucket list items and just doing things that I love doing. It's funny though, I've noticed a positive shift in some of the people around me.
When you walk around with a smile on your face, thinking positive, speaking positive, doing the things that you love, encouraging others and succeeding in life, the people around you see this and begin to follow.
Have you ever noticed that successful people tend to hang out with other successful people? Famous people tend to hang out with other famous people? And negative people tend to hang out with other negative people? This is no coincidence. A lot of the time, the successful people all knew each other before they became successful. They pushed each other into their success. And similarly, the negative people push each other further and further into failure, mediocrity and lack of self worth.
It can be so easy to throw blame onto the negative people of this world though. Why don't they just change? Why can't they stop putting me down? Why can't they stop doing bad things?
The thing is, the strongest people of this world are usually the ones that appear weak on the outside, the ones that get bullied and picked on. It is the bullies, the ones that appear strong on the outside who are really just hurting on the inside. They are wearing a mask, a facade created to hide their true inner weakness. It is the bullies, the ones who put others down, the ones who judge, the ones who do bad things that really need the help. However, they are not 'bad' people.
I have a little saying, "we are all born kicking and screaming". After being in the womb for nine months, we are birthed into an unknown, foreign world, where all we know is to kick and scream. No one is born a bad person. No one enters this world a murderer, a drug dealer, a thief or a bully. We are who we are today because of the environments we have been subjected to, because of the situations and people around us that we have been influenced by.
The 'bad' people of this world have just gone through 'bad' situations. Their weakness is not necessarily their fault. So isn't it our responsibility to lead from the front? To lead by example?
Next time you are subjected to a negative situation, where someone puts you down, or someone attempts to cause you pain, realise that they are the ones hurting on the inside. The situations they have been through have most likely been worse than what you have gone through.
Does this make it right? No, of course not, but instead of throwing blame and just adding fuel to the negative fire, think about leading by example. Put a smile on your face everywhere you go. Be confident with who you are. Speak positivity. Maybe even throw some encouragement toward the 'bad' ones. Show them that you feel their pain. Then one day, when they see you succeeding, when they see your happiness, when they see your love for life, they will soon begin to follow.